The Art Of Staying True To Your Art

It was finally here. The day I had been waiting, stressing, sweating, talking about, dreading, losing sleep over for the past several months was finally here: I was moving.

Yep. I was packing my country-loving Louisiana ass up and heading to Jersey. I was trading in my camo and cowboy boots for leapord print EVERYTHING, Italians, and the Jersey Shore.  When you live where I did most of my life, people who moved away were always referred to as the ones who “got out”.

And I was making my escape.

I was living such a comfortable, simple, yet extraordinary life. I had built a copywriting business for myself which I ran poolside, usually with a beer in hand, and I didn’t know it then but I LOVED my life. I loved the ups and downs of business, I loved how every small victory called for the greatest of celebrations, how every single positive thing about my business delighted me to the very core. There is literally NOTHING in the entire world that could be so satisfying.

The first several months I was in Jersey it was great. I spent my nights in NYC, and my days in the house half sleeping, half writing, and no part building my business. 

The transition was harder than I thought it would be. I thought that everything would be great- that NYC would magically drop more opportunity on my doorstep, and that somehow moving to the Northeast would ensure my business success. *insert giggle at my foolish 30yr old self*

Opportunity did not drop on my doorstep. In fact, I don’t even think it passed through my neighborhood-at all.

I held on to the couple clients I had for a while, but for some reason all of the change and stress of moving myself and my 10 year old daughter across the country with one suitcase and no real plan seemed to stifle my creativity and ambition (shocker). I found myself, depressed, broke, and facing the awful reality of having to get a “real job”.

At the time I could not think of anything I would hate more. A real job meant death to me. And especially after I had “made it” as my own boss for so long. I was a failure.

Enter: The reason why I wrote this post and shared that story with you- I “lost” my art. 


I took the job. I dropped my clients. I closed my laptop. I made a choice for the right now. Because the job was easier than admitting that I let my business go. The job had a steady paycheck that was comfortable for me. The job put me in a social setting where I made friends easily and developed a network. I enjoyed the job.

But my art… 

went unnourished, unnoticed, undeveloped, untouched.  And when you have talent and a purpose, it always finds a way to creep back up and say “hey shithead, remember me?” when you least expect it.

The art of staying true to your art is this:

When you feel it pulling, when  life is trying to lead you down one path that looks quite amazing but you somehow feel like you should leave it all behind because down that unknown, unpaved road is someting quite brilliant and that something has to do with your art, when you hear it calling…


Because you can bullshit everyone else around you, but you can’t bullshit yourself. And eventually you realize that to be great you have to give up the good. And if you ever want to stop sailing through life set on mediocrity, you have to stay true to your art.

And now here I am, back to my art. And it feels fucking amazing.





Choosing The Best Blogging Platform

This is a marriage. (But not the Hollywood sort.) Choosing the best blogging platform is one of the most important decisions you will make when starting a blog.

And choosing the best blogging platform is kind of like choosing a partner. (except you won’t have to do their dirty laundry).

The point is, this is serious, and if you want to run your blog like a business, or you are setting up a blog for your business, then you need a partner that will help you make more money.

That partner is WordPress. So get ready to fall in LOVE. [Read more…]

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I’ve been told that not everything in life can ALWAYS be fun.

My response: Why the fuck not?

Why should I be miserable, stuck in a job I hate, taking things “seriously”, and waiting for the weekends to be able to kick back, relax, and enjoy my family.


We are surrounded by jerks everyday that tell us that “nothing worth while is easy”, “dreams don’t work unless you do”, “no pain no gain”… the list goes on.

I want to drop kick these people in the face. HARD. [Read more…]

Building Your Blog, Business, And Reputation One “Thank You” At A Time

If you want to know the BIG secret to building your blog or your business, I’ll tell you. Because it’s not nearly as big as when Milli Vanilli kept a secret that they weren’t really singing shit. Or how they lost their Grammy when everyone found out. (No this is not that kind of secret. And apparently they kind of sucked at keeping them).

That was a serious secret. And I wouldn’t have touched that one.

So maybe I lied a little. (oops) There is no BIG secret to building your blog or your business. It’s more like an easy thing you should be doing everyday but get so caught up in the BIGGER picture you forget. (Like the time you forgot to take the sticker off that new shirt and walked around all day with everyone knowing you were not only wearing a brand new shirt, but that you were a size XL)

It’s quite simple really.

And it starts with one simple THANK YOU. [Read more…]

Why I Gave Up Hard Liquor, Blogging, And Life Lessons Only You Can Learn Yourself

I gave up hard liquor.  (And other things non-related to alcohol or my success).

September. 2012. Me, a park bench, and the pavement. As I sit there spewing up on my feet (yes my own feet, both of them), I thought, no VOWED, to myself: I WILL NEVER DRINK AGAIN, just like any good drunk would.

The 2 buzz balls, 5 shots of Patron, and 2 Cranberry and Vodka’s that I had drunk earlier burned my throat as it came out… and onto my feet (did I mention it was in the middle of a crowded Downtown Baton Rouge?)  Yes, these drinks made me their bitch. And I was completely at their mercy (and believe me, Patron was not feeling too merciful that night).

I woke up not knowing where I was, with missing pants, NO clue how I had gotten into bed (and even worse where my pants had gone), and a RAGING hangover that lasted for 3 days. [Read more…]